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gratitude: a lesson in the art of reframing

Updated: Nov 29, 2020

Last week, I unexpectedly had to buy a full set of brand new tires. One of them had gone flat because of a nail, and it was unrepairable because the tread was too low. The repair shop said they could just replace the one tire and have me on my way, but the rest of my tires were looking pretty beat as well. They didn’t suggest that I drive in snow, which is on it’s way to Ohio as we speak.


So, I had a decision to make. I could risk my life and save a few hundred dollars by driving worn down tires in the snow, or I could pay the money to replace them all. I chose the latter. At first my thoughts were “Shit, I wasn’t expecting this expense. I don’t have an income right now and I’m going to be traveling next month and I have flights and a yoga teacher training to pay for. Why now? What the hell, I thought I just got all new tires recently!”


But then, I remembered the work I have done around healing my relationship with money and the daily gratitude practice I have, and how these things have changed my life. Instead of the story above of dread, disappointment, and despair, I decided to tell myself this story: “Wow, I’m so grateful that they changed my tires now instead of when I got in trouble in the snow. Thankfully, the tire went flat in my driveway and not while I was out on the road. I feel so blessed that I have enough money to afford this AND everything else I need to pay for. What a blessing that everything I spend comes back to me ten-fold, because now I have thousands of dollars coming my way!”


See the difference? How does the second story feel versus the first? Much better, right? Like you can actually take a breath and relax instead of getting all tensed up and creating resistance.


You see, this is a constant practice for me. And sometimes it can be really hard to reframe situations into something more positive, but from what I’ve learned it's always worth it. Life becomes a lot easier when you reframe it to look at it from a grateful perspective. Life becomes way more enjoyable when you decide that you want to feel good. When you let go of the resistance to life’s events, it flows with ease and all you have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.



Let’s look at another example. Maybe every day you wake up and think, “Ugh, another day of work. I wish I didn’t have to go to work today. What a crappy day out. I hope (insert name) is sick today because I literally cannot handle another day of their bullshit. All I want to do is stay in bed today. Why do I have to be at work so early? Are there really three more days till Saturday? Fuuuuck.” And then you roll out of bed, feeling like crap, and you go to work in a despair that radiates off you like the stink off a squished stink bug in summer time.


Now, I’ll let you in on a little secret: Nothing in your life will change until you do. Or rather, things will change with much greater ease once you do. Even if you truly think that your job isn’t the job for you and that your soul would be much more full if you had a job that was more aligned with your values and who you are, I can guarantee that you could still find gratitude for the job you have now. And feeling gratitude for it would make it much more enjoyable to go to. I’m not saying don’t make changes in your life, because I’m all for them (hello, I’m like the queen of change), but I am saying that first you gotta look inward and align yourself with the job of your dreams before you can have it.


Whether or not you’re waiting and looking for a new job, here’s how you could look at your current job: “I’m so grateful that I have a job that provides me with an income so I can pay for rent, groceries, gas, etc. What a beautiful day to be alive! I’m so grateful I woke up today and that I get to go to work and learn something new. I hope all my coworkers are well because I really couldn’t do my work without them. I’m so grateful I got hired at this job because it’s teaching me a lot about the art of reframing and how I can be grateful no matter my situation. I love my job. I love my life.”


Ahhhh, doesn’t that feel nice? And here’s the magical part, even if you don’t truly believe all of that right now… the more you practice it, the more you will feel better, the more you will start to release resistance, and the more aligned you will become with abundance to flow to you. You see that domino effect of reframing your situation and practicing gratitude? Then, instead of radiating despair, you’ll radiate love, and you’ll be amazed at what people, experiences, and opportunities will come your way because of it.


Don’t just take it from me, try it for yourself! And stick to this practice like your life depends on it, because it does. The life of your dreams depends on it. A life full of joy, love, and feeling good depends on it. I could talk alllll day about this, and would be more than happy to expand the conversation if you want to reach out (head over to the Connect page to get in touch), but I’ll leave you with these questions to ponder and write about if you feel called to.



Journal prompts:


What do you complain about?

Where in your life do you feel resistance?

When do you notice that you feel, speak, or think negatively about something?

What do you “hate” to do, but know that it is necessary right now in your life? (for example: buy groceries, clean your house, wash the dishes, drive to work, pay rent, etc.)


*Once you’ve answered the above questions, you can move on to the ones below.*


Look at what you complain about. Is there a way that you could reframe those complaints into something like “I am grateful for ____, because _____.”?

How can you look at the situations that you feel resistance and turn them into situations that you feel grateful for?

Once you notice your negative thoughts, how can you reframe those into positive ones? Practice noticing yourself thinking negatively, and then practice choosing the positive thoughts. (PRACTICE is the key word. No one is perfect at this, but the more you practice the easier it becomes. Meditation is a great tool to help with noticing your thoughts. Check out my master list of self-love tools on the Toolbox page for more.)

Take whatever you “hate” to do, and write down 5 reasons why you could be grateful for it.



Resources that have helped me with this lesson:


You Are a Badass At Making Money - Jen Sincero


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