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  • Writer's pictureLina

Stop Comparing Yourself

I have a tendency to compare myself to others. I told my mentor about this & she responded “Anytime you are admiring someone else, acknowledge what it is you admire about them then tell yourself ‘and I have that too.’”


I now see who I truly am more clearly. I remind myself that the confidence, power, beauty, authenticity, bravery, & relentless pursuit of what sets us free that I admire in other people... actually exists within me too. It makes me realize how beautiful I am & WE ARE. I see myself staying in the energy of love & realizing that there really is infinite space for ALL OF US here.

At the same time, I also see myself more clearly when I fall into fear, self-sabotage, & doubt. When these moments happen, I see it as an opportunity to dig a little deeper. To ask myself “What part of me is being triggered by this? What belief do I have that is causing me to feel this discomfort? Is it a belief that serves me?” It’s an opportunity to witness, learn, let go, & trust the trigger to teach.

We are all reflections of each other.

What I love about you, I love about myself.

What I admire about you, I also have within me.

What I hate about you, I hate about myself.

What triggers me about you is something I haven’t accepted within myself.

These lessons teach me two things:

1. I have no control over what people project onto me. Whether it’s love or hate, it actually has nothing to do with me. So, this leads me to an opportunity to not compare myself to anyone and to stop worrying about what others think of me.

2. We project onto others what we accept or reject within ourselves. Anytime I feel triggered by someone, it’s a chance to look inward and grow. Anytime I admire something about someone else it’s a chance to give myself love too.

With that said, I’m grateful to have people come into my timeline that are the most beautiful reflections that I could ever ask for, who teach me about myself just by being themselves. I am grateful to know that there are people out there who see me and think the same. I am grateful for my pain and my joy. I am grateful to know who I am and to remember that the light I see in you, lives within me too.

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